It's been a while since I've written . . . I've since moved to South Korea but not because it was always a goal of mine. Click here to read about my move.
Nevertheless, today (4pm KST Wednesday) I'd like to share about LONELINESS. Living in another country has taught me more about loneliness than I've ever experienced . . . in this way. LONELINESS is definitely something that all of us experience, but this type of loneliness . . . being a foreigner, living in another country (not just visiting) . . . with all the cultural differences, has been a huge challenge. One being, finding a support system. - Finding a support system can be tough when you seek a new opportunity, as a result of hardships experienced prior to; This was my situation.
I thought that this decision would change my life, in a good way, but not being able to immediately contact the US, merely because of the 14hr time difference, can feel like a loss of connection. You begin to become "out of sight, out of mind" . . . a very hard pill to swallow.
What also contributes to LONELINESS is not being able to trust. I've been in a workplace that "faked support," not really open to hearing my concerns, nor did they recognize my value. This part of loneliness is from the lack of trust, that leads to self-isolation and only doing the bare minimum, at work.
Another piece of LONELINESS is traveling solo. When you travel solo (everywhere), there's still a loss of connection, but in addition there isn't anyone to share new sites or experiences with.
Now, this isn't an article for empathy. This is an article to share awareness of the type of LONELINESS that comes from taking a leap - a risk - looking for a way to change your life, for the better! The reassuring part of this type of LONELINESS is that you're forced to figure things out on your own (develop even more strength and courage), "find yourself" . . . even amidst the DISCOMFORT.
How would you handle this type of loneliness?