When I was going through my LinkedIn Premium package and what it offered, I remember a question, in the "Interview Section" asking about a failure or mistake that we had made.
What's interesting is that today (12.25) - I made a mistake. However, when I answered this question, the first example that came up in my mind was . . . with being the Founder and Creative Director of moveDIPR.
When I took on that role . . . I could clearly remember 2017 being a hightlight! It was the first time where everything felt like it was going right. I had a team. I had a project company. I had a right hand/assistant. I was able to scale to Teens with my apprentice program, we were offering company classes and we were even able to bring in Guest Teachers. And with that, I was already teaching at some of the top dance studios in New York (3 to be exact) - I was building my name and my brand is an awesome way! I was top of the world!
However, today I received a message from someone that I wanted to connect with on LinkedIn and their answer was "NO" - they didn't feel comfortable because I didn't use the correct pronouns.
Now, immediately I felt horrible because 1. I'm a black woman, so I should understand how 1 incident can harm us, even when it's as small as an unconscious bias or microaggression. I honestly felt like shit, in that moment!
And something that I clearly remember from doing my DEI training was that when you offend someone or say something unwarranted . . . you should not apologize profusely! But what was my first instinct? >>> To apologize profusely and make it about me: my advocacy for trans and nonbinary students, having a best friend who's gay, etc - everything that we hate about the advocacy or apologies that we receive from white women.
So, to answer the 1st question about a mistake you made . . . this will definitely be a mistake that will be more present in my mind.
All this to say . . . no matter how much older we become, it doesn't absolve us from making mistakes . . . even after recurring more training and knowledge. So all we can do is "Lean in to listen," & KEEP TRYING to become better people.
And in this case, in turns out that my impact was worse than my initial intent.